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6 things I wish I would’ve never said to my children…..

1.) Hush or shhhh or shut up – We are all guilty of it. Kids are meant to be loud. Its apart of them being KIDS. Sometimes my kids are so loud if I am watching TV I will turn it to volume 50 just so I can hear what is going on. I’ve learned over the last few months that the older they get, the louder they get….so whatever is on TV….it can wait….let those kids be just that….KIDS….They wont be loud forever….and lord knows they wont be kids forever. 

2.) We don’t have time for that – Another way of saying “I don’t feel like doing this”. MAKE TIME. Like I said above they wont be kids forever….and you have to treasure every second that you have them. Before you know it, they will be in college and wont want to build legos anymore, or play NERF guns, or paint stupid hand trees that you found on pinterest. It doesn’t matter what it is…..make the time….don’t tell them that you don’t have time because you can absolutely find 5 minutes to do whatever your child wants to do. 

3.) I’m busy OR maybe later – No…..you’re not busy…..you just want to finish what you are doing uninterrupted. Like for me vacuuming every day is something I am super OCD about….but you know what? The floors will be dirty tomorrow and will still need to be vacuumed. You’re never to busy to watch a show with them, read them a book, or just BE with them.

4.) Let me do it myself – Oh this is a big one I wish I would never say to my kids. As everyone knows I have an 8 year old and a 5 year old and they are both very into helping mommy do things. Ive actually had the 8 year start doing laundry and the 5 year old help me cook dinner. Normally I would tell them to leave me alone….or let me finish what I am doing so it gets done right….but there’s in no right or wrong way to do something when they are that age. They need to learn how to do things. Trial and error people. Trial and error.

5.) GO away – Yes, I am guilty of telling one of my children to go away….most of the time its in the middle of a conversation with their father, or I am on the phone with someone….but you know what? Those people can wait…your children cannot. Nor will they.

6.)  You’re not doing that right – False…..there is no wrong way to do whatever it is that they are doing. Let’s talk about common core math for a second. My second grader struggles in math and I learned basic math in school. So its very hard for me when it comes to common core to tell him that he isnt doing something right….because he is just doing it DIFFERENT than what I learned. Talk about a learning opportunity for both of us. This applies to everything. Even teaching them to clean their room or make their bed. Do not ever tell your child they are not doing something right….it just degrades them. 

Being a parent is a learning process. We are all going to make mistakes. Big ones. Little ones. Ones that dont even matter in their upbringing. But they will make mistakes too. But how we respond to their mistakes and requests will shape them into the adult/husband/wife/parent that they are going to be. Out of 3 kids I can tell you that I have made probably close to a million mistakes….but you know what? Parenting isn’t a perfect science and it never will be. Our children teach us things daily that we dont even realize. Take a second and look at the things that your children are doing or saying. Learn to be a better parent FROM your child. No self help book or parenting class can teach you what your children will. They are my greatest achievement. And I hope to continue to learn from each child every day as they grow. I hope to learn more patience for each child….because quite frankly each of them needs a different amount of patience. I hope to god that one day my kids will look back and say “my mom was the best mom EVER”……

So we have another “Snow Day”…Reaction to an article I read this morning

So we’re on day 2 of “snow day” for our school districts. But in all reality it’s a cold day because it’s -9 with wind chills of -35 to -40. I am the parent that if its 0* outside….I would sincerely hope that they close the schools for the children’s safety, however with that being said, I came across this article this morning that kind of got my fires going…..I mean you’ll probably be able to tell because I haven’t written in a few weeks.

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/opinion/commentary/ct-schools-close-wimpy-kids-cold-winter-snow-day-cps-perspec-0108-20150107-story.html

Basically in a nutshell the author of this article is basically calling parents and children alike wimpy because our schools are closed due to the extreme temperatures. Here’s what the author DOESN’T”T take into account. It can take seconds to get frostbite when exposed to these temperatures. Also…..what happens when your child’s bus breaks down, you’re at work and have no clue….and now all of a sudden your kid gets hypothermia from standing there waiting for the bus? Not to mention 9 times out of 10 when temperatures get this cold….buses don’t start. Or they will start and not even be warm by the time their routes are done. Now you are subjecting these children and their driver to hazardous conditions. I wonder if this author even has children?

Secondly as a mother who has a child with asthma…..and I’m sure any parent that has a child with any respiratory or autoimmune disease etc can relate…..when you are a child (or an adult) with asthma and you are standing out in subzero temperatures and all of a sudden you get to school and it’s all nice and toasty warm….your bronchial muscles start to spasm, whether it be just enough to irritate a child and give them a cough or a full blown asthma attack it doesn’t matter. Going from one extreme temperate to another is very dangerous. I am glad that school take our children’s health and well being into thought while they make the tough decisions to close schools for cold weather. Just because the kids get a “snow day” doesn’t mean the teachers are there working. The teachers also along with the children will be in school longer when summer comes….they do not make these decisions lightly.

I feel that if you are going to write an article calling children “wimpy” maybe have your facts straight. Take other things into account. Yeah, I get that anyone can have a blog. Freedom of speech is what they call it. But come one….It’s 2015….our kids don’t have to walk miles to school in the snow barefoot or anything like that. Do your research, have some common sense.

Ultimately it truly is up to the parent whether they want to send their child to school when the weather is as it is. But with the schools being closed that’s obviously a decision they don’t have to make. I also understand that when the schools close for a day or two or even more during the week it can be stressful on a parent who works because of last minute child care being needed, but again the writer of the article just sounds ignorant….and again….I wonder if they have any children…

All I ask is that if for some reason you truly do need to take your children out of the warmth of your home, is that you use your brain. If you’re cold….they are colder.  Bundle them up. Warm your car up. We know that not all parents are all there, so please just have common sense. Stay inside if you can. Keep your kids inside if you can. It’s below freezing outside. There is no reason in the world a child needs to be outside.

Parenting Fail….

So as most of you know by now I am a SAHM of three kids. Which can absolutely be the worlds hardest job.

The other night, we kind of had a blow-up….and for anyone that knows us, knows that blow-ups are like little tiffs in our house. Well our oldest son who just turned 8 mid October still has accidents one in awhile in the middle of the night. I’ve done a lot of research and some kids who tend to be heavier sleepers do have accidents during the night because their brain just doesn’t make them realize that they have to go to the bathroom. I’ve talked to his doctor numerous times and they say not to worry until they hit about age 10.

Well my son has now gotten into the habit that he doesnt tell us that he had an accident and he’s hiding the clothes under his bed, in his closet, you name it. Wherever he can hide it…he does. So there are days where i will spend 2+ hours ripping his room apart scrubbing it and wondering why it STILL smells like urine. Can never find it. Ever!

Finally, jesus christ finally…..I did their (my 2 boys) laundry on Sunday and found the urine soaked clothes hiding in the middle of a clean clothes basket. (I suck at putting laundry away). I had to wash the clothes three times in order to get the odor out. I almost just threw them all away and bought new stuff, but shit kids clothes are just too damn expensive to be doing that. So I finally dried them, and sanitized the washer and the dryer because you dont want everything smelling like urine after that.

Well I got to the point where I was washing sheets literally every other day or so for awhile and my husband would want to ground my son. I personally dont believe that you should punish a child for having an accident. I believe you should punish a child for HIDING that accident. But regardless I can admit that I suck at discipline. I make him stay in his room for about an hour or two and then he’s done. Well my husband is convinced that he needs to be in his room every day until the end of time. Which I get because for the love of god I have never in my life seen him that mad. I cant believe we all made it out alive.

So the solution seemed to be buying those stupid overnights for kids 6+ who still have accidents. So I did. And I showed them to him. And then I made him wear one to bed last night. He was HUMILIATED. He cried and sobbed and kept saying that he wasnt a baby. And I mean duh he’s 8 he isnt a baby, but I am sick of not being able to let him go to friends house for sleep overs and I am sick of washing sheets all the time.

He woke up dry this morning thank god. And I told him that every morning he wakes up dry…I will put a quarter in the peepee jar I made….and if he pees….he has to take a quarter OUT and give it to me….and usually I put those in his sister’s piggy bank. She’ll be rich my god. But I hope this works…and if any other moms out there read this and have advice or opinions….for the love of god GIVE THEM TO ME!!!